Well, how can I say this... Life comes at you fast, and Mr. Spice and I have been trying to hold ourselves above water the last couple of months.
Some of you may know by my tweets, but Mr. Spice has been on the job hunt something fierce the last two months. His company decided to move, and not take him with them. Hurumf.
He was officially laid off last Friday. BIG SIGH.
I've said it before, and I'll say it again- my Husband is my #1 passion in life. He's my best friend, my love, my one and only. So right now Mr. Spice and I are holding onto the life raft of life. We're working hard on finding his passion. His reason to get up in the morning.
When people often talk about the highs and lows of marriage, I always want to know what they mean. I want to pry into their lives and ask them about the lows. I've always thought that if I knew what rocky waters were coming our way, I'd be more prepared. But after treading in the water for almost two months- I've realized that the only thing that can prepare you for the lows is a strong relationship during the highs.
Be it a blessing or a curse, I've always been able to communicate with Mr. Spice- I've never been able to hide how I am feeling. It floods out. And I think* that this open communication is whats keeping us going. And from keeping both of us from falling apart.
Someone told me that couples often reflect fondly on the hard times. They look back and realize that through everything going on around them- they still had each other. I am starting to understand this.
I am well aware that losing a job is not the end of the world, and that people are going through far greater tough times than we are. I also expect worse things to happen to us over our life times. But right now, it's our storm to get through. And hopefully (knock on wood) the low of our first year of marriage.
As Mr. Spice's #1 fan, I am routing him on. Times may be tight now, but at least we're holding on together. I am sure we'll hit land soon.
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Anyone else hitting some bumpy waters?
*I'll let you know on our 50 year anniversary if our goal of open communication actually works.
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My dad's grandma always said "The first 50 years of marriage are the hardest. It gets easier after that". I reflect on this as we approach our first anniversary! Good luck to you and Mr. Spice!
OMG, great post. I literally just wrote a post related to health problems and new marriage. I set it to post tomorrow, and I used the same analogy of treading water. Great minds, huh? :)
I'm sorry you and Mr. Spice have been dealing with all of this. It can't be easy. I agree with you about open communication. When situations get difficult, sometimes the frustration levels rise, and all you have is good communication to break the fall. I'm hoping for the best for you guys. I know you will hit land very soon :)
I'm so sorry about Mr. Spice's job! I'm sure he'll find something soon!
I think we're just beginning "treading water"! We're moving at the end of June. We're applying for jobs and hopefully one of us will have something before the move, but I know the next several months are going to be hard. I want to know what our August looks like! :)
Carly- Can't wait to read your post.
Heidi- I will happily fast forward to August with you! I have to believe that bigger and better things are in the future!!
This has been a rough year for the Mr. and I: I'm on a job search too, and he's been working to the bone. But I think of how miserable I'd be if I didn't have him -- and us -- to rely on during this period of struggle, and I can't help but be so very glad to be married. Sounds like you too.
Sending good vibes to Mr. Spice.
Beautiful post, and such a good outlook on life's inevitable struggles. Best of luck to the Mister on his job search. (Hope it leads to something even better than his old post.)
Not sure if you'll even see this comment, since this post is old, but I just found it- and I wanted to wish you nothing but the best, and also applaud your attitude. You said you want to hear about other people's tough times: My husband and I have been together (dating and married) for a total of 8 years. 5 years ago I suffered a large career setback-- one that required taking time to do something else, going back to school and coming at my goal from another angle. having always had things come easily for me in the past, this took a huge hit at my confidence, and at our relationship. But. I.can't.tell.you.want.his.support.meant. Out of that time, we truly became an us, a unit, ready for the next thing life gave us.
The other day, I found out that I had at long last achieved my goal. 5 years. 1 ROCKY year of dating. 1 stronger year. 1 year of engagement. 2 years of marriage. And when I got the news, I walked in a haze straight to his office. He came downstairs and said how proud he was-- but all I could say was how proud I was of us, to thank him for making me believe in myself, and for showing me what really matters. Amazing that the best day so far in my career became one of the best in our relationship. It is not that this is the hardest thing that we will ever do, but it is foundational. Best Best Wishes to you and Mr. Spice.
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